michelle obama DNC Awesome speech.

I listened to Michelle Obama’s speech on Live Network yesterday [she looked great as always and her pale purple nails and slim fingers were quite eye-catching] and what struck me most was how personal it was. It was a politicized love letter, and I loved that aspect of it. Around the middle of the speech she said, “…when we were first married, our combined monthly student loan bills were actually higher than our mortgage. We were so young, so in love, and so in debt.”

Towards the end, she added, “today, I love my husband even more than I did four years ago…even more than I did 23 years ago, when we first met.” I was inspired by how much she believes in her husband and his vision, and how she is working in her own way to support him. Below is the video and the parts of her speech that really spoke to me.

michelle_obama_convention_speechServing as your First Lady is an honor and a privilege…but back when we first came together four years ago, I still had some concerns about this journey we’d begun.

While I believed deeply in my husband’s vision for this country…and I was certain he would make an extraordinary President…like any mother, I was worried about what it would mean for our girls if he got that chance.

How would we keep them grounded under the glare of the national spotlight?

How would they feel being uprooted from their school, their friends, and the only home they’d ever known?

Our life before moving to Washington was filled with simple joys…Saturdays at soccer games, Sundays at grandma’s house…and a date night for Barack and me was either dinner or a movie, because as an exhausted mom, I couldn’t stay awake for both.

And the truth is, I loved the life we had built for our girls…I deeply loved the man I had built that life with…and I didn’t want that to change if he became President.

I loved Barack just the way he was.

You see, even though back then Barack was a Senator and a presidential candidate…to me, he was still the guy who’d picked me up for our dates in a car that was so rusted out, I could actually see the pavement going by through a hole in the passenger side door…he was the guy whose proudest possession was a coffee table he’d found in a dumpster, and whose only pair of decent shoes was half a size too small.

But when Barack started telling me about his family – that’s when I knew I had found a kindred spirit, someone whose values and upbringing were so much like mine.

You see, Barack and I were both raised by families who didn’t have much in the way of money or material possessions but who had given us something far more valuable – their unconditional love, their unflinching sacrifice, and the chance to go places they had never imagined for themselves.


Like so many American families, our families weren’t asking for much.

They didn’t begrudge anyone else’s success or care that others had much more than they did…in fact, they admired it.

They simply believed in that fundamental American promise that, even if you don’t start out with much, if you work hard and do what you’re supposed to do, then you should be able to build a decent life for yourself and an even better life for your kids and grandkids.

That’s how they raised us…that’s what we learned from their example.

We learned about dignity and decency – that how hard you work matters more than how much you make…that helping others means more than just getting ahead yourself.

We learned about honesty and integrity – that the truth matters…that you don’t take shortcuts or play by your own set of rules…and success doesn’t count unless you earn it fair and square.

We learned about gratitude and humility – that so many people had a hand in our success, from the teachers who inspired us to the janitors who kept our school clean…and we were taught to value everyone’s contribution and treat everyone with respect.

Those are the values Barack and I – and so many of you – are trying to pass on to our own children.

That’s who we are.

And standing before you four years ago, I knew that I didn’t want any of that to change if Barack became President.

Well, today, after so many struggles and triumphs and moments that have tested my husband in ways I never could have imagined, I have seen firsthand that being president doesn’t change who you are – it reveals who you are.

You see, I’ve gotten to see up close and personal what being president really looks like.

And I’ve seen how the issues that come across a President’s desk are always the hard ones – the problems where no amount of data or numbers will get you to the right answer…the judgment calls where the stakes are so high, and there is no margin for error.

And as President, you can get all kinds of advice from all kinds of people.

But at the end of the day, when it comes time to make that decision, as President, all you have to guide you are your values, and your vision, and the life experiences that make you who you are.


So in the end, for Barack, these issues aren’t political – they’re personal.

Because Barack knows what it means when a family struggles.

He knows what it means to want something more for your kids and grandkids.

Barack knows the American Dream because he’s lived it…and he wants everyone in this country to have that same opportunity, no matter who we are, or where we’re from, or what we look like, or who we love.

And he believes that when you’ve worked hard, and done well, and walked through that doorway of opportunity…you do not slam it shut behind you…you reach back, and you give other folks the same chances that helped you succeed.

So when people ask me whether being in the White House has changed my husband, I can honestly say that when it comes to his character, and his convictions, and his heart, Barack Obama is still the same man I fell in love with all those years ago.

He’s the same man who started his career by turning down high paying jobs and instead working in struggling neighborhoods where a steel plant had shut down, fighting to rebuild those communities and get folks back to work…because for Barack, success isn’t about how much money you make, it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.

He’s the same man who, when our girls were first born, would anxiously check their cribs every few minutes to ensure they were still breathing, proudly showing them off to everyone we knew.

That’s the man who sits down with me and our girls for dinner nearly every night, patiently answering their questions about issues in the news, and strategizing about middle school friendships.

That’s the man I see in those quiet moments late at night, hunched over his desk, poring over the letters people have sent him.

The letter from the father struggling to pay his bills…from the woman dying of cancer whose insurance company won’t cover her care…from the young person with so much promise but so few opportunities.

I see the concern in his eyes…and I hear the determination in his voice as he tells me, “You won’t believe what these folks are going through, Michelle…it’s not right. We’ve got to keep working to fix this. We’ve got so much more to do.”

I see how those stories – our collection of struggles and hopes and dreams – I see how that’s what drives Barack Obama every single day.

And I didn’t think it was possible, but today, I love my husband even more than I did four years ago…even more than I did 23 years ago, when we first met.

I love that he’s never forgotten how he started.

I love that we can trust Barack to do what he says he’s going to do, even when it’s hard – especially when it’s hard.

I love that for Barack, there is no such thing as “us” and “them” – he doesn’t care whether you’re a Democrat, a Republican, or none of the above…he knows that we all love our country…and he’s always ready to listen to good ideas…he’s always looking for the very best in everyone he meets.

And I love that even in the toughest moments, when we’re all sweating it – when we’re worried that the bill won’t pass, and it seems like all is lost – Barack never lets himself get distracted by the chatter and the noise.

Just like his grandmother, he just keeps getting up and moving forward…with patience and wisdom, and courage and grace.

And he reminds me that we are playing a long game here…and that change is hard, and change is slow, and it never happens all at once.

But eventually we get there, we always do.

We get there because of folks like my Dad…folks like Barack’s grandmother…men and women who said to themselves, “I may not have a chance to fulfill my dreams, but maybe my children will…maybe my grandchildren will.”

So many of us stand here tonight because of their sacrifice, and longing, and steadfast love…because time and again, they swallowed their fears and doubts and did what was hard.

So today, when the challenges we face start to seem overwhelming – or even impossible – let us never forget that doing the impossible is the history of this nation…it’s who we are as Americans…it’s how this country was built.

And if our parents and grandparents could toil and struggle for us…if they could raise beams of steel to the sky, send a man to the moon, and connect the world with the touch of a button…then surely we can keep on sacrificing and building for our own kids and grandkids.

And if so many brave men and women could wear our country’s uniform and sacrifice their lives for our most fundamental rights…then surely we can do our part as citizens of this great democracy to exercise those rights…surely, we can get to the polls and make our voices heard on Election Day.

If farmers and blacksmiths could win independence from an empire…if immigrants could leave behind everything they knew for a better life on our shores…if women could be dragged to jail for seeking the vote…if a generation could defeat a depression, and define greatness for all time…if a young preacher could lift us to the mountaintop with his righteous dream…and if proud Americans can be who they are and boldly stand at the altar with who they love…then surely, surely we can give everyone in this country a fair chance at that great American Dream.

Because in the end, more than anything else, that is the story of this country – the story of unwavering hope grounded in unyielding struggle.

That is what has made my story, and Barack’s story, and so many other American stories possible.

And I say all of this tonight not just as First Lady…and not just as a wife.

You see, at the end of the day, my most important title is still “mom-in-chief.”

My daughters are still the heart of my heart and the center of my world.

But today, I have none of those worries from four years ago about whether Barack and I were doing what’s best for our girls.

Because today, I know from experience that if I truly want to leave a better world for my daughters, and all our sons and daughters…if we want to give all our children a foundation for their dreams and opportunities worthy of their promise…if we want to give them that sense of limitless possibility – that belief that here in America, there is always something better out there if you’re willing to work for it…then we must work like never before…and we must once again come together and stand together for the man we can trust to keep moving this great country forward…my husband, our President, President Barack Obama.

Thank you, God bless you, and God bless America. 

Don`t judge too soon.

A couple have been married for over 9years without children and it was becoming their 10th year. Dave and Clara stayed with each other and hoped that they will have a child before their 10th year of marriage runs out, because they were under persuasion from friends and family members to get a divorce; but they could’nt let go, because of the love between them. Months passed and one day, while Dave was returning from work, he saw his wife walking down the road with a man. The man had his arms around her neck and they looked very happy. For over a week, he saw the same man with his wife at various places and one evening, while Dave was returning from work he
saw the man drop her off at the house after giving her a kiss on the cheek.

Dave was angry and sad. Two days later, after a hectic day at work, Dave was taking water with a glass jug from the dispenser when the phone rang. He picked it up and the person said,”Hello dear, I’ll be coming to your house this evening to see you as promised. I hope…..”. Dave hung-up the phone. It was a male voice and he was sure the person was the man he had always seen her with. He suddenly became shaky with the thought that he has lost his wife to another man. The glass jug fell from his hand and shattered into pieces. Clara came running into the room asking,”Is everything okay?”. In anger he gave his wife a push and she fell. She wasn’t moving or getting up. Dave then realized that she fell where he broke the glass jug. A large piece of glass had pierced her. He felt her breath, pulse and heartbeat but there she lay lifeless. His wife was dead.

In total confusion, he saw an envelope in her hand. He took it, opened it and was shocked by its
content -it was a letter. It read: “My loving husband, words cannot express how I feel so, I had to write it down. I have been going to see a doctor for over a week and I wanted to be sure before I give you the news. The doctor confirmed it that I am pregnant with a twin and our baby is due 7months from now. The same doctor is my long lost brother whom I lost contact with after our marriage. He has
promised to take care of me and our baby and give us the best without collecting a dime. He also promised to have dinner with us today. I am putting this on your favorite chair in the sitting room for you to remember the day you proposed to me and I had to write to you saying,”Yes” because I was so happy. Thanks for staying by my side”. -Your loving wife The letter fell from his hand. There was a knock at the door and the same man he had seen with his wife came in and said, “Hello Dave, I suppose I’m right. Its Max, the brother of your wife and……”. Suddenly, Max noticed his sister lying in a pool of her blood. He rushed her to the hospital and she was confirmed dead! Her twin baby gone.

We should not be too quick to take unnecessary actions in our relationship or marriage when we
havn’t questioned our partner or spouse on what we saw or heard about them. Each of us have our faults. We shouldn’t be too fast to decide the judgement of others. Have you thought of that thing
you are doing wrong, that no one sees? – Not everything you see, hear, or believe about someone is true!

Welcome to the school called marriage!


Are you married? If Yes, welcome to the school called marriage:
A school where you will never graduate.
A school without a break or a free period.
A school where no one is supposed to drop out.
A school, which you will attend every day of your life.

A school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
A school founded by God,
on the foundation of Love.The walls are made out of trust.
The door is made out of acceptance.
The windows are made out understanding.
The furniture is made out of blessings.
The roof is made out of faith.Before you forget,
You are just a student not the principal.
Christ is the principal.
Even in times of storms,
Don’t be unwise and run outside.
Remember this school is the safest place to be.Never go to sleep,
Before completing your assignments for the day.
Never forget the C-word, Communicate.
Communicate to your classmate,
And also communicate to the Principal.

If you find out something in your classmate who is ur spouse
That you do not appreciate,
Remember your classmate is also just a student,
Not a graduate.
God is not finished with her/him yet.
So take it as a challenge and work on it together.

Do not forget to study,
Never read your Bible (the main textbook),
But study it.
Start each day with a sacred assembly,
And end it the same way.

Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes,
Yet you have to.
When tempted to quit,
Find courage in the Lord to continue.

Some tests and exams may be tough,
Remember the Principal knows how much you can bear.
But still, it is a school better than any other.
It is one of the best schools on earth.
Joy, peace and happiness accompany each lessons of the day.

Different subjects are offered in this school,
Yet love is the major subject.
After all the years of theorizing about it,
Now you have a chance to practice it.

To be loved is a good thing,
But to love is a greatest privilege of them all.
Marriage is a place of love,
So love your spouse.

When tempted to raise your voice,
Let Love hold your mouth.
Let Love overthrow pride and selfishness,
And let Love reign in your house.

Do not hold back any Love.
But go all the way.
Love as though that’s your only hope for your survival,
And it is.

A friend N who had been married for decades posted it. I decided to share because sometimes I find being married overwhelming and challenging It`s hard work that need lots of patients, understanding, Love and God grace.
Have awesome day.

My Husband forgot my birthday

Today16 July 2012  is my birthday, guess what my husband of almost a decades forgot it`s my birthday, how awkward? to say I `m not hurt and disappointed I would be lying.

He is not so good in remembering events birthday`s anniversary.

I pondered through it, and gave it a second thought, It`s something His not proud of. Sometimes  His birthday skip His mind  too until later in the day or a day after.

Things happen and people do genuinely forgot there maybe nothing sinister in it and it is not always a sign that they just don`t care.

I used to remind him but I decided not to this time

I just bought myself a cake and presents act giving them to myself as a treat celebrating a special day in my life Yes I know it  seemed childish, but it`s works like magic and effective way to make me feel it`s my birthday It`s does not matter where the cake present come from whether I bought it or my husband it`s my birthday cake.

Next year I will roll over to keep reminding Him week before the special day also make sure all important events are kept in reminder, would not mind saying in the morning of the event, Hey hubby it`s your wife birthday , It will not be a bad idea if you start now to plan a special treat for me.

I don`t make a big deal about my birthday but I would expect some gesture that it`s my special day.

It did turn out well later, as sensible husband he later plan romantic dinner for two at the place of my choice with gift as icing in the cake.

I will like to know if you have ever experience this and how you resolve it.

Have awesome Day.

Me,myself and I

Instead of counting candles or tallying years

Contemplate my blessings as my birthday is here

Consider special people who love me take care of me

be there for me at every milestones without weary

They love me, care for me, and enriched my life just

by being there

The memories of previous decades of my life never mar

Experiences, great and small that might not matter

to anyone but have made me who I am

Life affirming event melancholy reflection

Plenty of scars proudly earned mistakes and

challenges of life never regret every bit of it

rather make mistakes than do nothing, way to learn

I cut my cake, drink my wine and say many happy returns

to me myself and I

I can`t thank God enough for the gift of life His

Blessing and unfailing love

Me myself and I will forever appreciate God for this day.

Have awesome day.

Effective ways to lose weight and keep it off for life.

So you`ve decided now is time for you to lose that extra weight, your sick, tired, fed up with how your looking and most importantly you want to be happy again and get your life back from being over weight to being normal weight and healthy.

You made the right decision and I`m so proud of you but their is a catch on losing weight and keeping it off for life, I used to advice many of my client that are passionate about losing weight with slimming tea, to not just drink it and do nothing but also incorporate it with healthy eating and exercise is also very important to consult with your doctor for routine check up, by doing so you will be advice to do what is best for you base on your

condition, and the amount of weight you want to lose, if your on maintenance type I guess by now you should be familiar with what works for you and  ways to maintain a healthy life-style for life.

Back to effective ways to lose weight and keep it off for life, urge to lose weight is one thing finding time to exercise and make a healthy choice is another thing.

Many times people focus there mind on shading the extra weight and willing to do anything to lose the weight not minding the side effect, why would anyone want to lose weight fast for short period and gain back the whole pounds later on?

The answer is simple because some people get frustrated, want to attend event, they feel awful,sad,unhappy,or their life is in danger because of the extra weight and they have no option than to lose weight to feel better and most importantly to be out of danger and live a happy life again.

There is good news, losing weight can be simple with this formula but not so easy but hey nothing good comes easy, I bet with time you will find out that what seemed hard at first might be easy if your used to it. Use this three formula below to lose and maintain your weight for life.I also love cardio and strenght training,running on treadmill, this are just examples, do what works for you, get used to it and make it life style thing.Image

1.Move more eat less. When you eat a lot without working out you store extra pounds in your body that`s when you become obese. but if you reverse the case exercise often eat less the weight will gradually come off in no time. Exercise must not seemed like chore make it fun find something you love doing, I used to dance and practice yoga with my daughter that`s great opportunity for mother and daughter bonding.

2.Make a healthy choice. eat vegetables, fruits, protein, good fats, fiber,be hydrated replace you soda with water and natural fruit juice. do not skip eating breakfast, when chosen your breakfast, fortify and start your day with healthy meals.

Food is not the enemy but it`s the choice of food we make.

3.You are what you eat. Don`t quit when you attain your goal weight make it a life style duty be healthy for life not just for losing weight also keeping it off for life.

Health is wealth.

You can add  more help tips  on effective ways to lose weight and keep it off

Have awesome day.

How awful addiction can be?

Many times in life journey we discover that we all are guilty of being addicted to something, some are major addiction that can be harmful to our body, if not deadly like drugs,alcohol abuse,or tanning everyday for a decades.

I read article recently about a lady who had been tanning for everyday roughly 10 years not minding the healthy risk, she says even skin cancer wouldn`t stop her.

How insensitive one can get, that`s one of dumbest thing I`ve heard lately.

It kept me wondering how many people are addicted to something especially those that are very much aware of the consequences of their actions yet find it difficult to quit or consider it worthy to make a positive change.


As healthy lifestyle flick that I am,such things makes me sick, I can understand if one is remorseful of bad habits and strive to make a positive change but what baffles me is when one careless and indirectly insulting those that are fighting and seriously battling with their lives for cancer,melanoma and other deadly diagnosis.

My point is that we should be comfortable with our skin even if we need to tan let it be in moderation, we should learn how to pamper and take care of our skin, body and general health because health is wealth.

Be content with your original skin color and complexion take care of it like precious jewel, You don`t need anyone approval to tell you how great you look, if your comfortable with who you are, you don`t need to go extreme or do crazy stuff to look good,no matter what color your skin are if you take care it you will look fabulous.

I will like to hear what healthy tips and things you do to keep your skin beautiful, healthy, feeling and looking great.

Have awesome day.